The Hedonic Treadmill: Seeking Joy Beyond Stuff

My wife and I recently spent a few days in Down East Maine, enjoying the scenic rocky beaches and the brisk sea air. It was our third visit, and each time back we’ve stayed a little closer to the ocean.

After checking into a small boutique hotel steps from downtown Bar Harbor, we strolled along the Shore Path, taking in great views of Frenchman’s Bay and the Porcupine islands.

There are also historic homes and buildings along the way. One of these is a hotel, just off the beach, with tables outside under yellow umbrellas. It has an infinity pool and twin hot tubs overlooking the bay, and almost every room has an ocean view.

At the same time, we both said out loud, “We should have stayed here!” I looked it up; the rate was half again more than our already pricey non-ocean-view hotel. For a moment, we wallowed in covetousness and envy. We wanted to be the folks soaking in the jacuzzi with a postcard-worthy view of the ocean, but the price was too steep.

Cutting through the parking lot, on our way back to our hotel, I pointed out an Audi, and a Mercedes, and a Range Rover SUV. Then, a lady came out of the spa wearing a fancy white bathrobe, sporting the hotel logo.

“Would staying here, and driving one of those, and being pampered in there (my wife gestured toward the spa) truly make us happier?” I had to admit, the answer was no.

Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions.

Jesus- Luke 12:15 (NIV)

The next morning, the Lord reminded me of the deceptiveness of what’s called the Hedonic Treadmill; the more you get the more you want, it’s a circle with no end in sight.

As I read the verse above, and others along the same lines, the message from the Holy Spirit was clear: external things cannot bring lasting happiness and peace. No matter how much there is, my “stuff” will never be enough.

God cannot give us happiness and peace apart from Himself, because it is not there.

C.S. Lewis

Kind reader, our brush with “enough” was a wakeup call about what really matters. Can you relate? It also had me looking for a quote I remembered from one of my favorite poets.

Anything that is more than our necessity is poison.

Rumi

Thank you for reading. 🙏❤️ prayers and love.

You will show me the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.

Psalm 16:11 (NIV)


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*The picture above is an AI generated example, but is close to the view we saw–minus the infinity pool.


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30 responses to “The Hedonic Treadmill: Seeking Joy Beyond Stuff”

  1. Gary Fultz Avatar

    Good story David. Someday it would be fun to sit around a campfire and swap stories…or just out on the deck with an appropriate seasonal drink.

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  2. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Agreed, Gary. Quick story: my favorite car I’ve ever owned cost $500. It was priced at $1000, but the pastor/owner sold it to me at half price—we’d been talking about Dave Ramsey’s emergency fund idea.
    Anyway, it was in good mechanical condition, but was not a looker. I went around to salvage yards and bought pieces of missing trim, and Nancy helped me patch up the front seat.
    Anyway, “Luci” was the car who cost the least but I loved the most.
    Thanks for stopping by and for sharing your thoughts and for reading mine. God bless!

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  3. Gary Fultz Avatar

    I totally understand. To be content no matter the status, perks or lack of them seems to put one in the top 5%.

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  4. davidsdailydose Avatar

    I’ve had recent tech trouble too, especially on the WP Jetpack app. Thanks for reading and commenting. God Bless!

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  5. Bridget Avatar

    Such a great reminder. I’ve found that “stuff” can be a pull to distract us from real life. I’m glad we have all we really need in Jesus. And I’m glad you guys had a nice getaway. (By the way, I don’t know if WordPress likes me being back online. I’m having all kinds of technical difficulties!)

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  6. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Thanks for sharing a great illustration, brother Eric!

    Sometimes our extra stuff ends up owning us. Like you said, having things is fine, but stay off the treadmill, and remember most things have a price tag beyond their monetary one.

    Brother, this stuff will preach!

    Blessings to you and yours.

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  7. DailyArmorDevotional Avatar

    Great post! Made me think of a recent encounter with a coworker who lives near my neighborhood.
    He asked if I got a notice from the township about getting our lawn sprinklers inspected…apparently all of the residents had to get the sprinkler valves inspected (out of pocket) to be sure all return valves were in working order.

    I told him we don’t have a sprinkler system in our 63 year old house…unless you count me standing outside in shorts spraying down the lawn during dry spells.

    Tonight I mowed in 100 degree heat and thanked God I didn’t have to spend extra money on sprinklers or other “rich people problems”.😆

    Nothing wrong with having things, but there’s always the risk of stepping into that hedonistic treadmill and wanting more, more, more. I like to keep things pretty simple. Good devotional brother David!

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  8. davidsdailydose Avatar

    That’s a good description, Mitch. Like telling a young struggling dreamer they won’t be pleased with barrels of money. Even a middle-aged me doesn’t always believe it.
    Thanks for reading and commenting. God Bless.

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  9. mitchteemley Avatar

    An unpopular and yet secretly beautiful truth.

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  10. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Thank you for reading and commenting, Amber. I join you in time prayer for enjoying the simple things of life with your children. God Bless!

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  11. Amber Avatar

    I find this message important and one that I’m constantly trying to teach my children in an over consuming world. It’s a hard one to instill, but with time and patience I pray the Lord continues to help me with it!

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  12. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Very true, Barb. We’ve had equal amounts of fun and made good memories just about everywhere we’ve stayed.

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  13. My Life in Our Father's World Avatar

    It’s being together that makes the memories, not overspending on a hotel.

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  14. davidsdailydose Avatar

    I saw your van/camper is undergoing repairs. I hope you enjoy yourself in the meantime!

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  15. davidsdailydose Avatar

    It was beautiful and pricey and we had a good time. A couple of days was enough, though. We are glad to be back home. Thanks for stopping by, Crystal. God Bless!

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  16. The Crystal Light Avatar

    I bet Maine was a beautiful change of pace. Perhaps it’s appropriate to say I have New England vacation envy.

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  17. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Hello, brother Alan. I crafted a well thought out reply, earlier today, but it did not post.
    I trust there are plenty of the locals in Down East Maine who agree with the Fifers in Scotland. They appreciate the money tourists bring to the area, but not all the noise and traffic. Every winter they breathe a sigh of relief.
    Thank you for stopping by. God. Less you, as well! 🙏🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🇺🇸

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  18. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Yes! It’s all about perspective. With true peace and happiness from God, we can thrive with little or much.

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  19. seeingliketheeagle Avatar

    Thanks David. It’s day by day at the moment 😊

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  20. God Still Speaks Avatar

    Reminds me of a story of a poor man who lived in a shack. As he sat down to his supper of thin soup and a crust of bread, he bowed his head and said, “All this and Jesus too? How blessed am I!”

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  21. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Thank you for reading and commenting, Nicola. I’ve been following your posts about your holiday in France. It’s a blessing to be satisfied with our own “enough.”Amen! 🙏continued safe travels.

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  22. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Your ladder analogy is a good one, Pete. And, if everyone tries to climb the same one, it’s going to be crowded! This makes me think of how Jesus talked about the wide and the narrow roads. Thank you for sharing. God Bless!

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  23. seeingliketheeagle Avatar

    We were in Le Touquet in France on Thursday David and the villas there were incredible but too rich for our tastes and our budget. I like that phrase beware the hedonistic treadmill….there are too many unfortunates on it these days lured by social media who probably wish they could get off now!

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  24. jesusluvsall Avatar

    We won’t find contentment, true contentment, until we find it in Jesus.

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  25. pastorpete51 Avatar

    So true David. When we look at life as a ladder to be climbed, then no matter where we are, someone is always on the next rung.

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  26. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Hello, Betty. Your grandpa summed it up perfectly, and with few words. I love it! Nancy and I had a great vacation. We also got to visit with our two younger sons and Nancy’s brother who lives in upstate New York. Thank you for stopping by. I hope you and Dan have a wonderful weekend. God Bless!

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  27. Betty Avatar

    My grandpa used to say, “Man will always want.” Luke 12:15 is a wonderful verse. Hope you had a wonderful vacation!

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  28. Alan Kearns Avatar

    Maine is a beautiful place for sure, if I were ever in the US I would certainly visit there 😊 You are right David, we must beware of the ‘hedonistic treadmill’ (lovely description). I occasionally drive along to St. Andrews for bookshops and bakeries, where I see lots of posh cars and tourists which hold the gaze. But I smile contentedly because these folks have to go home, I live in Fife and get to visit all it’s beautiful places for free anytime I want. God is Good! 🌞

    May you and Nancy for a blessed weekend brother 🙏 🇺🇸🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

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