Selective Listening

It happens every 4th of July – Independence Day here in the USA. In our little hamlet it’s perfectly legal for folks to shoot off fireworks, on the streets and from their back yards. And each passing year the relentless noise seems more startling to my sense of well-being. Time to break out the ear plugs.

So I’m sitting at the kitchen table (plugs in) surfing the net, when my wife comes in and starts rummaging through a cabinet drawer. She looks my way and says something unintelligible. I respond, “If you’re telling me something right now I can’t hear you.” She starts laughing, because she was chiding me (kindly) for misplacing the ink pen that goes in the drawer. Confession: I occasionally employ something called “selective spousal listening.”

This whole scene made me think of something God said to Israel during the prophet Isaiah’s time.

Don’t think the Lord is too weak to save you or too deaf to hear your call for help! It is because of your sins that He doesn’t hear you. It is your sins that separate you from God when you try to worship Him.

Isaiah 59:1-2 (GNT)

Here’s an experiment: Watch television for a week and count the number of times you hear the word “sin.” I suspect you won’t run out of fingers. Transgression of divine law isn’t something the world cares to talk about. But why?

Somehow we know instinctively there’s nothing wrong with God; the wrong is in us. Sin damages our fellowship with our Creator and disrupts the ability to communicate with Him. This causes even unbelievers to scurry for the shadows (John 3:19-21).

Have there been times when you’ve tried to talk with God, but it felt like He wasn’t tuned in? Me too. “Child, if you’re telling me something right now, I can’t hear you.” Of course the Lord isn’t deaf. But He occasionally employs something called “selective divine listening.” Our unconfessed sin plugs His ears.

Thankfully, there is a solution:

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

1 John 1:9 (NIV)

God always listens to prayers that start with, “Sorry, Lord. It was my fault…”

A Parting Thought:

Jesus often slipped away to spend time alone with God (Mark 1:35). He also led a sinless life (Hebrews 4:15). Is there a connection? You and I will never be sinless–this side of heaven. But we would do well to follow Christ’s example.

🙏❤️ prayers and love.

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35 responses to “Selective Listening”

  1. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Wow. You’ve shared some great lessons—cringe worthy or not, Aimee! I like how you say everything starts and ends with God. He is the potter and we are the clay. Not the other way around. Blessings!


  2. Aimee Elizabeth Avatar

    ::Cringe emoji::
    Yes, I can name several things I have prayed for that seemed to bounce off a brick wall while seas were splitting all around me… EXCEPT FOR THE ONE THING.
    “Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.” James 4:3

    WHY did I want those things answered? For genuine concern or selfish gain?

    My prayers were not aligned with God’s will. He gives us our desires as HE PUTS THOSE thoughts in our minds and hearts and then in HIS time, and HIS PURPOSE and glory, answers them. But, it’s never about us and always about Him.

    Lots of (cringe filled) lessons learned.

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  3. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Thanks for stopping by, Brenda! Your comment reminds me of the scripture, “Lord, if you marked out transgressions who could stand? But with you there is forgiveness, therefore you are feared.”


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  4. Becoming His Tapestry Avatar

    Amen 🙏🏽 sin interrupts our relationship with the Lord, but our Lord is always ready to listen👂 to us

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  5. God Still Speaks Avatar

    Ooooo I like that eternal win-win, because that is what we have!

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  6. davidsdailydose Avatar

    It’s a good thing she doesn’t read my comment section. 😃

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  7. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Thanks, brother! God Bless.

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  8. Alan Kearns Avatar

    What an excellent piece of writing David! I love how you take selective hearing, which most of us are guilty of, and illustrate a valuable point about repentance. God bless you brother.

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  9. jesusluvsall Avatar

    Maybe one day your wife will take you to an audiologist. 🙂

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  10. davidsdailydose Avatar

    You’re welcome! I just finished your “boomerang “ post. What a great Illustration for an eternal win-win scenario! Blessings.

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  11. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Thank you, Barb! Prayers coming right back your way. 🙏


  12. My Life in Our Father's World Avatar

    I’ll pray for both of you

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  13. God Still Speaks Avatar

    Okay, I can take a hint, and I shall remove my fingers from my ears so I can hear my husband better. Thanks David! Another job well done!

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  14. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Right! We may as well come clean with our Heavenly Father. He knows everything anyway.
    Thank you for reading and commenting. Blessings!

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  15. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Understood, Joseph. I like your approach! Thank you for sharing! God Bless.


  16. ropheka Avatar

    I love to spend time with my Heavenly Beloved in nature, Gods creation.
    I go by the motto when you mess up you fess up. That keeps my conscience clear before both Poppa and man.

    I have met too many with selective hearing. But, it always comes back to bite them.

    I just am firm but respectful to them and inform them I do not tolerate their childish behaviour. It is time to put the big boy or big girl panties on ( to grow up ) and behave like a man or woman.

    Most of them avoid me like the plague after that. That is good because they are nothing but trouble to begin with.

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  17. Don't Lose Hope Avatar

    It’s definitely true that we instinctively know that God’s view of our thoughts, actions, or a situation is the correct view.
    We instinctively know that he sees our motives, and knows what’s really going on inside us.
    Hopefully, we also know he is loving and gracious will help us if we are willing to talk to him about things 🙂

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  18. davidsdailydose Avatar

    But I agree, respectfully listening to my wife is important. I’ll keep trying. 😇


  19. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Well said, Betty! Your grandmother was right. Reminds me of my favorite Ruth Bader Ginsburg quote:

    “When a thoughtless or hurtful word is spoken, best tune out.”

    Thanks for stopping by, Betty. As you like to say: Enjoy your day!

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  20. My Life in Our Father's World Avatar

    I think you & my husband would be fast friends in that department 😉

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  21. davidsdailydose Avatar

    You’re welcome, Barb. BTW, I read all my posts to Nancy (my wife) before tapping “publish.” She thought my selective spousal listening term was funny too—we’ll sort of. ☺️


  22. Betty Avatar

    Your story reminds me of my Grandma who used to say my grandpa would get crabby in his old age, but it was okay because she couldn’t hear him. 🙂 Being humble and letting down our defenses works wonders to soften and open another’s heart to us – both our Lord and other humans, too.

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  23. My Life in Our Father's World Avatar

    Selective Spousal Listening.. LOL

    But in all seriousness, I think we can all be better at listening to God & others.

    Thanks for the reminder.

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  24. Bridget A. Thomas Avatar

    That is good news! And hopefully an open door that will lead to more healing. I will continue the prayers!

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  25. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Thank you for sharing, Bridget. I don’t want to ever be in a place where God isn’t listening to me either. After many attempts to reach my son, I heard back from Him last night! It was simply a short “I love you too, dad” text, but he responded! Thank you for your continued prayers.

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  26. Bridget A. Thomas Avatar

    What a blessing to know that we can run to the Father and confess our sin, and He will gladly forgive us and wipe us clean. I think sometimes we take this precious gift for granted. I don’t ever want to be in a place where the Lord does not hear me. But I know we all have been there. Thank you for sharing.

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  27. davidsdailydose Avatar

    That’s awesome, Pastor Pete. Enjoy your visit!


  28. pastorpete51 Avatar

    Yes and we are just 2 weeks away from traveling up to see them. I can hardly wait!

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  29. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Agree, Pete. God always hears us, but our unconfessed sins make the conversation more difficult. Thank you for your comment. Can we go to the park now, please? Pete, did you hear that?

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  30. pastorpete51 Avatar

    Yes selective listening is something I have often been accused of. The upside is I can read in a busy airport without being disturbed by the chaos. The downside is I can read in a busy living room and miss hearing my grandchildren asking to go the park! Of course God does still hear us, in fact he records every word, but sin stops our ears from hearing God when He is telling us to stop.

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  31. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Yes, Manu. May we go with humble hearts to God seeking His forgiveness. Sin is so pervasive and invasive, it often slips into my life unnoticed. It’s the regular reflection that you mention that helps me see it for what it is. Blessings!

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  32. Perth Girl Avatar

    Well said David, our unconcealed sin does plug God’s ears. I do think regular reflection is important for awareness of sin in our lives.
    May we go with a humble heart to God seeking His forgiveness.

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