Stand In Grandpa

Recently, our elementary school conducted interviews with potential teachers. The head principal, and the other two assistant principals are a generation younger than me. So, as we introduced ourselves (on camera) to a twenty-something-year-old applicant, I quipped, “Obviously, I’m the elder statesman here.” Without missing a beat, my boss interjected, “Yes, David’s our grandpa.”

I nodded and smiled, but inside I retorted, “Hold up. I’m old enough to be some of our teachers’ father, but not grandfather!”

Later, I remembered a cafeteria conversation I had with a student during lunch: “My mom is 29 and my dad is 31.” That’s the same age as my two oldest children.  Fair enough, maybe my boss has a point.

But I’m still not technically a grandfather, because none of my three adult sons have children.

But then it hit me: being a grandparent involves more than DNA, it’s also a role you play in someone else’s life. 

What my principal meant is I’m like a grandpa to many of our students. Being a grandfather is a relationship, as much as a biological reality. 

Now, when someone calls me grandpa, I smile, with a nod, and say to myself, “That’s right. I’m a professional role model for younger generations”

One generation commends you works to another; they tell of your mighty acts.

Psalm 145:4 (NIV)

Thank you for reading. 🙏❤️ Prayers and love.


This piece first appeared in Christian Grandfather Magazine: a digital publication for Christian grandfathers and future grandfathers. christiangrandfather.org


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20 responses to “Stand In Grandpa”

  1. peggywritesblog Avatar

    Blessings, friend, I’m sure you do better than “try!”

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  2. davidsdailydose Avatar

    Thank you, Peggy. I try.

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  3. peggywritesblog Avatar

    Love the story, David, and your attitude about being a role model for the next generations!

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  4. davidsdailydose Avatar

    You have a point, Pastor Pete, the path to grandparenthood, and being a mentor of almost any kind, is lined with many starts, stops, and detours along the way. Life wisdom, especially the heavenly kind, doesn’t come with plenty of faith, hope, and love.

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  5. pastorpete51 Avatar

    Not long after we became grandparents, we noticed a bumper sticker which asked, “Why couldn’t we have had the grandkids first?” But in all honesty, we appreciated being grandparents more because of all the foibles, pitfalls, mistakes, victories and defeats we experienced as mom and dad. So, what a blessing that you now get to have an entire school full of grandkids!

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  6. Bridget Avatar

    Grandparents, whether biological or not, often hold a special place in one’s heart. And I love your point about being a role model. I bet you are someone that brings many smiles to the kids. And that is a gift they will remember.

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  7. Alan Kearns Avatar

    I must admit I never thought there was anything in being a grandfather, until I became one. Now I find it both challenging and a delight to my heart. Whether by blood or adoption it is an important role, especially when you can pass your charges back to mum or dad.😁

    God bless you and your family today brother 🙏 🇺🇸🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

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  8. Pure Glory Avatar

    Our society needs more fathers and grandfathers. What a privilege to be a grandpa to youngsters, David.

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  9. davidsdailydose Avatar

    I used to tell my music classes, “You can call me Mr. Duncan; you can call me Mr. D; just don’t call me late for lunch.”
    At least one kid greeted me every day with, “Hello, Mr. late for lunch.”

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  10. jesusluvsall Avatar

    Grandpa coach? 🙂

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  11. BerryBunch.family Avatar
    BerryBunch.family

    “That’s right. I’m a professional role model for younger generations”

    Love that!!

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  12. davidsdailydose Avatar

    I don’t feel like a grandpa, but it’s how some perceive me. At this point, I’d settle for being called a mentor or coach.

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  13. jesusluvsall Avatar

    Should we all call you Grandpa now? 🙂
    I think perhaps I am too old to do so 🙂
    Your role in the lives of the children and also with your colleagues will have impacts you may not see but it is happening.

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  14. davidsdailydose Avatar

    It can be bittersweet—getting older—but the wisdom that comes along with it is worth sharing with others.

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  15. davidsdailydose Avatar

    You make a good point, Betty. We are often both watching and being watched by others. Every generation has value to share with the others. As you say, “Enjoy your weekend!”

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  16. davidsdailydose Avatar

    How wonderful! My wife and I are privileged to help a church made up of mostly Ukrainian refugees.

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  17. Don't Lose Hope Avatar

    I remember when I was helping out at a kids club and the organizer said to me “The kids need grandmas like you.” I was shocked as my adult kids had just graduated from uni and I had no (and still don’t have any) grandchildren. I felt old and written off!! But as you say, the reality is, we can model all those beautiful qualities of acceptance, patience, kindness, gentleness, unconditional love etc to the little ones in our lives. And I know that’s exactly what you’re doing!

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  18. Betty Avatar

    Well, David, I guess your boss would call me a great grandma! While it’s possible I guess, I’m not even a grandma yet. However, I do know that people watch what we do and how we live our lives. We or even they may not realize they are watching, but they are. Have a great day!

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  19. joynealkidney Avatar

    I love this! Long before we became “real grandparents,” I was an “American grandma” for several Bosnian refugee families!

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